Towards the end of the story in the Bollywood film Chak De! India when the hockey team returns triumphant, ready to relish all the attention, coach Kabir Khan is conspicuous by his absence. He prefers instead to go reclaim a home he had left in disgrace many years earlier. Why does Kabir not wish to bask in his moment of glory, after erasing the stigma that he carried for years?

It took him seven years - after a failure saw him shunned, ostracised and branded a traitor - to gather the strength to redeem himself. Taking up an unlikely challenge, he met with cynicism and indifference. He met further resistance from the very individuals he tried to shape into a team. His past record, integrity and judgment were all questioned. Even the players who seemingly believed in him succumbed to peer pressure; he saw the team apparently united for only one goal, that of ousting him. Confronted with this, yet refusing to do things differently, he all but walked out. At many points, the opposing teams were the least of his challenges.

All through this, Kabir did not question his fundamentals or his approach; neither did he become vicious in his responses. Whether officials or players applauded or smirked, he stood his ground. He was no longer concerned about disdain, once he believed in what he was doing. And he was equally unconcerned about gathering adulation after having proved himself. He had, simply put, outgrown the need for both.

Rudyard Kipling wrote of treating triumph and disaster just the same, but that is easier said than done. The moments that test our reactions are when the anchors that hold our sense of selfworth are forced loose. These are moments when we can only look within to know that we are right, while few seem to agree and most are indifferent. Those moments tell us whether our consciousness has grown in strength, or whether the absence of support breaks us.

The strength to know no one in whose eyes he could find understanding, and yet go his way without wavering, is the strength that Kabir Khan displayed. It is the strength we need if we are to live without being at the mercy of world opinion. That strength comes from within, from understanding our real nature.

Rejection and failure can spur us to know ourselves, to go beyond the world's parameters of praise and criticism. Kabir was unfairly made to bear a cross for seven years. It could happen to any one of us. One of the unfair verdicts ever was given to the man who was literally nailed to a cross. But He faced crucifixion with courage, and He was the one who had the strength to get resurrected. If we know and believe in ourselves even when the rest find it convenient to crucify us, we would have the strength to resurrect ourselves, too.

I thought that you'd be loving me.
I thought you were the one who'd stay forever.
But now forever's come and gone
And I'm still here alone.

'Cause you were only playing,
You were only playing with my heart.
I was never waiting,
I was never waiting for the tears to start.

It was you who put the clouds around me.
It was you who made the tears fall down.
It was you who broke my heart in pieces.
It was you, it was you who made my blue eyes blue.

Oh, I never should have trusted you.
I thought that I'd be all you need.
In your eyes I thought I saw my heaven.
And now my heaven's gone away
And I'm out in the cold.

'Cause you had me believing,
You had me believing in a lie.
Guess I couldn't see it,
I guess I couldn't see it till I saw goodbye.

'Cause you were only playing,
You were only playing with my heart.
I was never waiting,
I was never waiting for the tears to start.
It was you who put the clouds around me.
It was you.

It was you who put those clouds around me.
It was you who made those tears fall down.
Only you who broke my heart in pieces.
It was you, it was you who made my blue eyes blue.

Oh, I never should have trusted you.
Oh, I never should have trusted you.
Oh, I never should have trusted you.
Oh, I never should have trusted you.

Women

A Frenchwomen,when doublecrossed,will kill her rival;the Italian women will rather kill her deceitful lover;the Englishwoman simply breaksoff realtion and a Indian will weep & sob-but they all will console themselves with another man.

jab kisi bewafa ka naam liya apne dil hi se intqam liya,

tujhse achha hai tera gham aye dost, jisne is zindgi ko thham liya,

aql ko hamse ye shikayat hai, hamne aksar junoon se kaam liya,

poochhiye mat ke dil pe kya gujre, jab kisi ne tera naam liya,

jab kisi bewafa ka naam liya apne dil hi se intqam liya............

By My Best Friend
Jai

My World Is Blue

Blue, blue, my world is blue
Blue is my world now I'm without you
Gray, gray, my life is gray
Cold is my heart since you went away

Red, red, my eyes are red
Crying for you alone in my bed
Green, green, my jealous heart
I doubted you and now we're apart

When we met how the bright sun shone
Then love died, now the rainbow is gone

Black, black, the nights I've known
Longing for you so lost and alone

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together

Change is challenging weather conscious or unexpected. Viewing adversity as change, not loss or failure, is part of empowered and positive thinking.It is necessary for all life forms to evolve.Chnage comes through many vehicles-some hits us hard,other are rather sneaky.But despite the challenges change brings,we know it is our natural state .It is inevitable-the world grows and we grow with fuelled by our emotions.
We are designed to cry, express sorrow, frustration, anger, resentment, even give up for a while.But we are also designed to have hope, recover, be stronger and inspire other. We are never, never alone because emotion gives us plenty in common. What makes one person triumphantly survive loss,while another in similar circumstances resign?It has to do with our underlying assumptions on change.Adopting a new attitude on adversity requires big picture thinking on the subject of change.Adversity is an inescapable performance indicator-and reviews in how we handle the bumps.We a meant to be stronger,more insightful person each time we get walloped.Each time we we grieve we become better at comforting others and showing compassion.
With all setback ,it drives the point home that never take things for granted and always remain open for changes.without change,there is no transformation.Change is good,making us stir the self-development pot a little faster!

The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.